Destination Weddings Advice from A Recent Bride
Nearly twelve months ago, I married the man of my dreams in the beautiful Soller in Mallorca. Fairly soon after he asked me to marry him, we sat down and talked about what we wanted for our wedding. We knew what we did not want; we did not want to have a traditional Irish wedding, like our parents before us. Instead, we were intrigued by the idea of a destination location that everyone could enjoy. Soller was at the top of our list. We visited and looked at several venues, but we truly loved one of them, which is the one we picked. The wedding itself was incredible and was exactly what I pictured as a little girl when I dreamed of the day that I would get married. The following tips include everything I learned during the planning process and should help ensure that your big day goes smoothly.
Practice the Word “No”
You are going to have to say no during the planning process. The only opinion that matters when it comes to what kind of wedding you want is your own (and your future husband’s). Everyone else is going to try and tell you their thoughts. Listen to them and appreciate that they care, but remember to ultimately do what you want to do. If not, you will not be satisfied with your wedding.
Tradition is Optional
Traditions should be respected, but they do not have to be adhered to during your wedding. For example, consider picking dresses to suit each of your individual bridesmaids, rather than forcing them all to wear matching frocks. Your ceremony does not have to be held inside of a church, and you do not need to wear “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue.” Keep the traditions that you feel strongly about. Beyond that, simply make the choices that help you put a personal touch on your wedding. You will have a lot more fun if you do not feel pressured to do or include something in your wedding. Make your wedding about you and your future husband!
Set a Budget
It is natural to be excited about your wedding. However, you have to be a little realistic as well. You and your fiancée have a life to plan. If you spend an exorbitant amount on your wedding, you are certainly not getting things off on the right foot. Set a budget and do your best to stick to it.
Hire a Wedding Planner
Particularly if your wedding is at a destination location, consider hiring a local wedding planner that can attend to all the details of the ceremony and reception. If the wedding planner is too expensive, simply hire him or her just for the day of your wedding. That should take some of the stress off of you and allow you to focus on your love for your partner and the excitement of day.
Keep It In Perspective
Remember that your wedding day is just that: a day. You have many more days to come as a couple. Try not to stress about the little things. Focus on the larger issues, like your budget, your guest list and anything else that you feel passionate about. Forget about the little stuff and save yourself money where you can. On your wedding day, you will feel great and be much happier than if you had obsessed over every little detail. Keep your head up and keep smiling. Your day will be wonderful!